Applying Principles from One Sphere to Another

Had this lightbulb moment while driving. But I dread to write it. Because as people say, writing takes a long time. Sometimes your ideas suck, and you have to have the bravery to press the delete button. I do not have to do it because this is blogspot. Told myself I will, WILL, finish this in 7 minutes. As of now, two mintues have passed. HA-

ANYWAYS. The tldr version is I think people can apply the rules that they learnt/familiarised with in one aspect of life, in other areas of life. I for example, know what it means to do a good job at work. I know the precise moment, or the precise list of tasks that I need to tick off for that project to be in a good enough shape to be sent off to my managers. I also know the list of things that are nice to have but do not need to be done for it to be a good job, if they are all done maybe that would be called perfect instead. So I do not struggle in this sense at work, to decipher between what is considered a well done job and not. 

On the other hand, I suck at this in general at other things in life. Finances, friendships, developing skills, working out. There always seems to be too many things to juggle at any one point of my adult life. Dropping any of the balls seem to disqualify me from the living a good life bracket, and juggling all of them just seems insurmountable. Hence I lie down, metaphorically. I helplessly juggle a little everyday, thinking before I even start that it was a failure already. I cannot seem to cut the list down, because in my mind anything short of that is imperfect, and not worth accomplishing.

Therefore it dawned on me that if I take the same approach to managing life tasks bar work, the same as I approach each project at work, I might be better at it, and not feel so tired and helpless every other week. Exactly the same rules, figure out a point where things are good, not perfect and strive at it and maintain it, until I have the capacity to do more. 

I got excited. Perhaps other people can benefit from thinking like this too. They may not have the same familiarity for the rules of work that I have, but they almost certainly do for at least one aspect of their lives, they must have figured out the rules to win at it pretty well. They can just apply it to the other aspects that they are struggling with, and voila! Everybody might feel a little better.

I have a suspicion some already think like this. For example, MBTIs. It is essentially the study of how people think about/react to the same situation. Some people think about it intellectually more, some feel more, some are more spontaneous, some plan ahead. I am no expert in MBTIs, in fact I am not sure which I am! Knowing that a situation is one and the same, but people see and relate to it in different ways, can reframe our mind and redefine the meaning of success to be a little more achievable. In the same way, knowing the way to game an industry can be applied to another sphere of life is also highly encouraging. 

Mini Dump on All Sorts of Thoughts

Should you date someone not your type?

Google results say absolutely. In fact, your shot at happiness dwindles dramatically if you don't. 

Should you date someone for dating experience, even though you don't think  you will work long term?

Google results say, yes can be good to gather data if and only if the other person is fully aware. They can treat it as practice too.

Recipe for a good script

Answer from thoughts on the drive back home from work. 

1. A solid background/foundation idea/thread which forms the backbone of the film, the big idea, the first thing people say when asked about what the movie is about. 
2. An emotional theme overlaid on the first point. This is the first thing people remember about your film, how it made them feel - it is manufactured, so pick something strong and manufacture it fully. 
3. The perfect execution - how dialogues, or the lack of, props, graphics, the tone the color of the film - all these to bring to life the first two points. 
4. These can be upgraded by a fourth and last element: a good plot twist near the end which is hinted at at the beginning, subtle enough not to be picked up until revealed, but memorable enough to be remembered.

Two show come to mind. First the Amy Adams film about aliens. The premise of human learning alien language is prevalent and primary - it is the foundation on which the film stands on. A fresh idea compared to the same old of many alien movies too, which helps. This is overlaid by the story of love and loss between the leads and their child, and the difficulty of the situation which calls the viewer's morality into question. The execution is great, you remember the movie being silent and grey, which is the whole vibe of the film. The plot twist has a standing ovation from me.

The second is Scarlet Hearts. The background is a modern woman being transported back in time and experiences the Chinese imperial dynasty life (stems from an old drawing which featured an insignificant woman in the background, apparently. How romantic.) The emotional part was again love and loss between humans - what one wants may not be. The execution was great with the songs and scenery on point, full of colors alluding to the extravagance of a bygone era.